We live in a culture of supressed emotions. I sometimes wonder if some people would like us to return to the children are seen but not heard days of living.
I constantly hear parents telling their children "Stop crying your a big boy/girl," "Don't be upset," "Don't get angry."
Perhaps we could try a different way. If your child is angry there is a reason. If your child is frustrated there is a reason. If your child cries there is a reason. Showing emotions is good for everyone but especially children.
Just let them show the emotion and BE THERE for your child. That's all, just BE THERE. DO NOT find an answer and DO NOT try to make it better. You child will learn from this experience. They will learn they have parents who are there for them when they need it no matter what and they will learn how to deal with their emotions themselves.
As a law of attraction coach I strongly encourage strong emotion. Of course I do want to see positive emotion as much as possible. So why would I want parents to allow negative emotions? Because if any emotion is silenced it becomes SUPRESSED.
If a negative emotion is allowed to run it's course supported by love and respect it will turn into a positive emotion very quickly.
Happy Parenting.
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Wendy
12 years ago
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Hi Wendy,
ReplyDeleteYou make a really valid point. As parents we often want to try to make things all better by trying to fix the problem because we don't want to see them upset. As well as being supportive Instead of saying 'Don't be upset' and 'Don't get angry,' If you say things like 'You sound upset' and 'You sound angry I can understand why you feel that way' children will start to really learn what all these mixed up emotions are and learn to verbalise them better for themselves.