Exciting News - ZERO WORRY PARENTING COURSE

I'm really excited to share this news with you.  I am a great fan of using the law of attraction as a parenting tool. I work personally with parents on a one to one basis and in workshops teaching how to use the law of attraction as a parenting tool and how parents can teach their own children how to use the law of attraction.

Today I want to tell you about a program that is about to be launched  - Zero Worry Parenting Course.  I'm already signed up, the people behind this course have years and years of experience behind them and they are such amazing people.  I already recommend products by them. They are people I have been involved with for many years.



To sign up ready for the launch (I would strongly recommend you sign up now to make sure you get on board with this great course) please go to http://tinyurl.com/ykkhyob
You'll find more information about the launch.

I also just found out that Bob Doyle - One of the speakers on the hit movie THE SECRET has endorsed the course.  I'm so happy he's on board. 

Well let me know if you sign up and have a great time learning Zero Worry Parenting.

Let's Have A Hug

Today my 8 year old son woke up grumpy and clearly in a bad mood.  As a law of attraction coach I know that starting the day this way can only lead to things going wrong for him all day.  This is obviously not what I want for my little guy. 
He was cross about something and nothing was going his way.  This had to stop right away.

I sat down on the bed as he tugged and pulled at his bed covers trying to find something he'd lost in there.  I pulled him toward me and put my arms around him.  His body felt tense and stiff.  He was resisting my cuddles.  Hmm, that doesn't last for long though.  I gently rubbed his back and talk calmly to him. 
"A cuddle is a nice way to start the day"
"It's so important to start the day happy.  Let go of all those grumpy feelings now.  They're not your friends"
Gradually I felt his body relax.  We slowly snuggled up to me and I knew he was feeling happier.
All the time I was visualizing him being calm and relaxed.

Our morning continued relaxed and calm.  He went to school happy and I watched him run in with a smile on his face knowing he'd have a good morning.

This could have gone totally different and believe me when I say I've had very different mornings to this in the past.  As parents our actions have a massive impact on our children.  If I had rushed him and told him to stop being grumpy he would have simply got more and more angry until we ended up yelling at each other and both having miserable days.

I used to believe that being a parent is the hardest job in the world.  Now I don't.  Now I know it is the most important job in the world and when we choose it, there is an easy way. 

Happy Parenting.

As always my love and support

Wendy x

Affirmations For Children

Here's a picture of Jack in Florida.  He's Just made his own Pizza.  It's going off to the oven to be cooked.  Looks good doesn't it?  I think we've got a little chef on our hands. 

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I love affirmations and I try to use them with my son as often as possible.  A word of warning here.  Make your affirmations natural and genuine.

You're a great listener (when he's sat quietly and listened to you even for 1 minute)
You are so clever, you read so well
You are great at riding your bike
I love you (Yes, this is a very powerful affirmation which is sometimes overlooked)
You are such an important part of this family
You are so polite.

I'm sure you can add many more to this list.  Always use the present tense and always be positive.
As parents, it's actually easy to slip up and give out a negative message without meaning to.  A few weeks I was tired and a little short tempered and my son was getting all his toys out.  We have a rule of put one lot of toys away before you get more out.  He doesn't always remember and normally I just remind him and he sorts it.  However as I was already tired and not in the best mood already I said (in a grumpy mummy voice) "Aargh Jack you're driving me crazy.  You're so messy.  If you don't tidy up in the next 5 minutes they will all go in the bin."  Wow, was I in a bad mood.  My son however, up until that point had been in a very good mood then began getting angry.  He felt I was being a mean mummy, which of course I was.

This not so good scene carried on  for a few minutes, until I finally had that "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?" moment.  I took hold of my son, took a deep breath and quietly said to him.  "I'm sorry, mummy is feeling tired and grumpy.  I was wrong to say that to you."  I went on to explain he still needed to tidy away some of his toys and I went and lay down on my bed for 5 minutes.  I closed my eyes and just let it all go.  I then went through the things I love about my son and the things I have to be grateful for.  When I returned to the room a few minutes later Jack was busy playing with his cars and all his other toys had been tidied away. 
I made it a priority to use plenty of positive affirmations for the rest of that day.

I think most of us have the odd day when we know we're doing it all wrong.  It's not the end of the world.  As long as your child knows that he is loved and you say sorry and put things right, it's okay.  Here are my 3 rules for when we get it wrong.

• Recognize we're not behaving the way we like
• Stop, say "Sorry" and take a breather.
• Move on using positive parenting.

The move on part is essential.  If you dwell on it your child will feel it and for you it's like emotionally beating yourself up.  It serves no purpose.  Move on and be a positive role model for your kids.  NOBODY gets it right all the time.

Sleeping Angels

Wow!  No, really - Wow!

I was told about Sleeping Angels sometime ago by a good friend.  She told me about a CD she had which she had bought for her son.  She was so excited about it and said she couldn't believe the diference in her son.  She told me she'd "been pulling her hair out".  She went on to tell me how he went from being generally rude and bad tempered to being polite and helpful in a matter of days.  I've used positive affirmation CD's before so I didn't really feel the need to buy another. 

However, I decided I'd download some information about the CD and thought I'd let you all know about it at some stage.  After all this is what my aim is for this blog, to let you know about ways to help you and your child be positive and happy.  So a couple of nights ago I looked up the website address I'd been given and as I read the information I just knew I needed this CD.  The price was great so I downloaded the recording immediately to my computer and burned it onto a disk. 

My 8 year old son was already sleeping by this time.  In the information it says that you can play the recordings whilst your child is sleeping.  So I put it on play and continued playing the CD for about 3 hours until I went to bed. 

The words used are beautiful and so positive.  I felt great hearing the words too.  Research has shown that we (children included) take in what is being said even when we are sleeping. 

My son is a lovely boy and in general polite and happy but a 29 hour journey with about 2 hours sleep and general disruption to his life over Christmas took it's toll on his behaviour.  I have to admit, that's a trait he gets from me.  It took it's toll on my behaviour too.  For the first two nights I played the CD only once he was sleeping. A concept my husband cannot get to grips with at all.  Last night I put the CD on whilst he was awake but sleepy.  I told him it was all the nice things I thought about him recorded onto a CD and that I loved him.  He was fast asleep in a few minutes. 

On the recording you'll hear things like :

You're a great child
You must be so proud of the way you behave
You always go to bed on time
You have the most beautiful manners
I love the way you're such a happy child

There are many, many more really positive affirmations set to lovely peaceful music.

Oh, by the way I purchased the download for children 5-12 year.  There are downloads for younger children, teens, parents and for special areas such as bedwetting.

This is a beautiful CD.  I'm so pleased I decided to purchase the download. 

Please let me know if you've had experience with Sleeping Angels or download any of the recordings.  I love hearing from you about you own experiences.

For more information Click Here!

Have a wonderful day

Wendy x

Back To School

Jack has started back at school today.  We start a little late here in Spain as we celebrate the 3 Kings which was on the 6th of January.  It's a pretty big celebration here.  We still celebrate Christmas and even though we are not Spanish we always give Jack a special present from the Kings.  He loves it as it's his special day to get an extra present.  He's been busy playing with all his new toys.  The favourites are Hot Wheels and K-nex.  He's been creating some pretty amazing constructions.  I'm very impressed.  He also got Cluedo, lego games (Ramses Pyramid) and monopoly deal (the card game).  They're all great games and he loves games time, especially when daddy plays, although daddy's game playing skills leave a lot to be desired. 

I'm making him soup for lunch (it's his favourite at the minute) and my time is all his this afternoon.  So games and cuddles here we come. 

Have a fantastic weekend. 

Wendy

Happy New Year

I want to take a minute to wish you all a wonderful, happy, healthy and fun 2010.  Many, many people make new years resolutions at the beginning of each new year.  I would like to suggest something new for this year.  Start the year by being thankful for everything you have already.  Celebrate the amazing life you already have.  When you have celebrated every area of your life, ask!  What is it you want for the year ahead?  What will make your world even more wonderful?  Ask - And continue to celebrate those wonderful things that are already yours.

My love and support to you all for the amazing year we have ahead of us.

Wendy x