Affirmations For Children

Here's a picture of Jack in Florida.  He's Just made his own Pizza.  It's going off to the oven to be cooked.  Looks good doesn't it?  I think we've got a little chef on our hands. 

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I love affirmations and I try to use them with my son as often as possible.  A word of warning here.  Make your affirmations natural and genuine.

You're a great listener (when he's sat quietly and listened to you even for 1 minute)
You are so clever, you read so well
You are great at riding your bike
I love you (Yes, this is a very powerful affirmation which is sometimes overlooked)
You are such an important part of this family
You are so polite.

I'm sure you can add many more to this list.  Always use the present tense and always be positive.
As parents, it's actually easy to slip up and give out a negative message without meaning to.  A few weeks I was tired and a little short tempered and my son was getting all his toys out.  We have a rule of put one lot of toys away before you get more out.  He doesn't always remember and normally I just remind him and he sorts it.  However as I was already tired and not in the best mood already I said (in a grumpy mummy voice) "Aargh Jack you're driving me crazy.  You're so messy.  If you don't tidy up in the next 5 minutes they will all go in the bin."  Wow, was I in a bad mood.  My son however, up until that point had been in a very good mood then began getting angry.  He felt I was being a mean mummy, which of course I was.

This not so good scene carried on  for a few minutes, until I finally had that "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?" moment.  I took hold of my son, took a deep breath and quietly said to him.  "I'm sorry, mummy is feeling tired and grumpy.  I was wrong to say that to you."  I went on to explain he still needed to tidy away some of his toys and I went and lay down on my bed for 5 minutes.  I closed my eyes and just let it all go.  I then went through the things I love about my son and the things I have to be grateful for.  When I returned to the room a few minutes later Jack was busy playing with his cars and all his other toys had been tidied away. 
I made it a priority to use plenty of positive affirmations for the rest of that day.

I think most of us have the odd day when we know we're doing it all wrong.  It's not the end of the world.  As long as your child knows that he is loved and you say sorry and put things right, it's okay.  Here are my 3 rules for when we get it wrong.

• Recognize we're not behaving the way we like
• Stop, say "Sorry" and take a breather.
• Move on using positive parenting.

The move on part is essential.  If you dwell on it your child will feel it and for you it's like emotionally beating yourself up.  It serves no purpose.  Move on and be a positive role model for your kids.  NOBODY gets it right all the time.

Sleeping Angels

Wow!  No, really - Wow!

I was told about Sleeping Angels sometime ago by a good friend.  She told me about a CD she had which she had bought for her son.  She was so excited about it and said she couldn't believe the diference in her son.  She told me she'd "been pulling her hair out".  She went on to tell me how he went from being generally rude and bad tempered to being polite and helpful in a matter of days.  I've used positive affirmation CD's before so I didn't really feel the need to buy another. 

However, I decided I'd download some information about the CD and thought I'd let you all know about it at some stage.  After all this is what my aim is for this blog, to let you know about ways to help you and your child be positive and happy.  So a couple of nights ago I looked up the website address I'd been given and as I read the information I just knew I needed this CD.  The price was great so I downloaded the recording immediately to my computer and burned it onto a disk. 

My 8 year old son was already sleeping by this time.  In the information it says that you can play the recordings whilst your child is sleeping.  So I put it on play and continued playing the CD for about 3 hours until I went to bed. 

The words used are beautiful and so positive.  I felt great hearing the words too.  Research has shown that we (children included) take in what is being said even when we are sleeping. 

My son is a lovely boy and in general polite and happy but a 29 hour journey with about 2 hours sleep and general disruption to his life over Christmas took it's toll on his behaviour.  I have to admit, that's a trait he gets from me.  It took it's toll on my behaviour too.  For the first two nights I played the CD only once he was sleeping. A concept my husband cannot get to grips with at all.  Last night I put the CD on whilst he was awake but sleepy.  I told him it was all the nice things I thought about him recorded onto a CD and that I loved him.  He was fast asleep in a few minutes. 

On the recording you'll hear things like :

You're a great child
You must be so proud of the way you behave
You always go to bed on time
You have the most beautiful manners
I love the way you're such a happy child

There are many, many more really positive affirmations set to lovely peaceful music.

Oh, by the way I purchased the download for children 5-12 year.  There are downloads for younger children, teens, parents and for special areas such as bedwetting.

This is a beautiful CD.  I'm so pleased I decided to purchase the download. 

Please let me know if you've had experience with Sleeping Angels or download any of the recordings.  I love hearing from you about you own experiences.

For more information Click Here!

Have a wonderful day

Wendy x

Back To School

Jack has started back at school today.  We start a little late here in Spain as we celebrate the 3 Kings which was on the 6th of January.  It's a pretty big celebration here.  We still celebrate Christmas and even though we are not Spanish we always give Jack a special present from the Kings.  He loves it as it's his special day to get an extra present.  He's been busy playing with all his new toys.  The favourites are Hot Wheels and K-nex.  He's been creating some pretty amazing constructions.  I'm very impressed.  He also got Cluedo, lego games (Ramses Pyramid) and monopoly deal (the card game).  They're all great games and he loves games time, especially when daddy plays, although daddy's game playing skills leave a lot to be desired. 

I'm making him soup for lunch (it's his favourite at the minute) and my time is all his this afternoon.  So games and cuddles here we come. 

Have a fantastic weekend. 

Wendy

Happy New Year

I want to take a minute to wish you all a wonderful, happy, healthy and fun 2010.  Many, many people make new years resolutions at the beginning of each new year.  I would like to suggest something new for this year.  Start the year by being thankful for everything you have already.  Celebrate the amazing life you already have.  When you have celebrated every area of your life, ask!  What is it you want for the year ahead?  What will make your world even more wonderful?  Ask - And continue to celebrate those wonderful things that are already yours.

My love and support to you all for the amazing year we have ahead of us.

Wendy x

Happy Christmas Wishes

Happy Christmas Everyone!  Today is my last blogging day before I head off on my Christmas Travels.  I'm not leaving until Tuesday but I know I'm going to be super busy on Monday and I didn't want to miss saying Happy Christmas to you all.

I want to quickly mention my law of attraction blog http://loa4llife.blogspot.com/

All this week I've been adding posts about how to create your ideal Christmas. I really hope you'll drop by and take a look.  Even though I say so myself they really are great posts.

Christmas is a magical time of the year.  Decorations, celebrations, gifts, family gatherings and letters to Santa.  Children understand the magic of Christmas.  New toys will be opened and played with, food will be eaten but the thing your children will treasure the most is the time you spend with them.  In all the preparations that come with Christmas remember that the real magic is the love we share.

Have a magical Christmas

My love and blessings to all of you

Wendy x

Don't Worry About Your Kids So Much - They Don't Need It

It's a big dangerous world out there, full of nasty people and things to hurt our children. Why wouldn't we worry about them? After all they're inexperienced, vulnerable and defenceless.

Okay, there are times when you should worry but most of the time we worry for the sake of worrying.

Over-worried parents become over-protective parents and that's just going to restict your child and make them anxious.

Worrying to much about your children can actually be destructive. It can limit the development of the children and it can have a negative impact on the quality of the parenting you are able to provide.

From a law of attraction point of view (what we focus on we attract) the very thing that you worry about is in fact what you are attracting.

So if you worry that your child will fall if he climbs - you are giving it your focus = You are putting a strong message out to the universe to bring about a fall for your child.  This is NOT a result you would ever want for your child.

As you probably already know I'm a huge fan of hypnosis to help with all negative beliefs, thoughts, habits.
I particularly recommend hypnosis for this area as it really is vitally important we control our worrying so that we are not attracting the very things we are worrying about.

How hypnosis can transform your anxious fears into realism

Worry less about your children is an audio hypnosis session for parents or guardians. Using the latest psychological understandings and the transformative power of hypnosis, this session will get you relaxing in ways you would never have thought possible. You will physically experience the effects of reducing worry in your body and in your brain.

Regular listening to this powerful session will allow you to develop a wonderfully calm, clear and objective attitude to the risks and opportunities of life - for yourself as well as for your children. You will discover how being less concerned about them actually makes you better able to recognize the risks that your children will meet, and how to deal with them effectively.

To learn more about this particular hypnosis download and others Click Here!

I have personally used this download with amazing results.  I want the best for my kids and I know you do too.  I look back and I can see the things I worried about often ended up happening.  Now I am able to thing positively about situations I view things differently and focus on what I want to happen.

That's all from me for today.  I'm off in search of Jack's Nintendo charger.  1 week and 1 day until holidays and a very long flight, we need the charger!  So we're playing the CHARGER HUNT game instead of the BEAR HUNT game.  Well, we have to be creative or we'll never get it done.

Have fun

Wendy

Feel Good Christmas Movie

My little fella is feeling poorly, he's been off colour since Sunday.  When my mum phoned yesterday to check on him she insisted I give him the Advent present she'd sent for him a day early to cheer him up. 

The advent present she'd sent was the SANTA BUDDIES dvd .  We put it the film on immediately and it certainly made him feel better for a little while.  Jack loves the BUDDIES and he's got the whole collection now and they're all great.

I wanted to share this with you just because it's such a great feel good movie, focusing on the true meaning of Christmas.  I think sometimes we can all use this particular message.

Anyway, it's the 1st of December and I'm looking forward to Christmas with my lovely family.  We're heading to Florida again for Christmas so Christmas officially starts for us on the 15th.  We don't buy so many presents these days we focus on having a great time together and having fun. 

I want to wish you all an amazing, magical Christmas.